Sarvadarshi Chintana - Marriage Break ups

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Getting married is achievement, sustaining married life is another achievement. Many small things make a breakup in life. Both at elder side and younger side there is need of learning skills to live together, enjoy together. Breakup is not the solution for everything.But peer pressure is all cause of most issues.

While in western countries husband will be a cab driver and wife a VP in Software Industry nothing causes damage to their life together and they also found blessed with 3-4 kids a minimum.

So whats happening in India and specially in our culture unfortunately?

Peer pressure of jazzy living style ( most credit goes to Facebook owned products - Bad owner like college drop out can build such products for society ).
Comparative discussions and close look into each others life
Unhealthy conversations on gifts(thanks to introducing GIFT concept to world by unshaven conceptual person)
Parents discussions with their kids
Huge dependency on husband's wealth, zero tolerance to challenges, less maturity in defining self satisfaction meaning

So whats happening with parents discussions with kids?

As parents we start comparisons from school days itself
As matured mother - mother asking questions to daughter as 'what you got gift at your birthday by your husband? Which saree you took and why low cost?' Looking for well settled, America groom for daughter...
Talking to married daughter about her friends growing, settling in abroad, celebrating their family events grand etc.

What parents are not asking to their kids?

Not asking questions as

'how are you leading your life'?
Did you get understanding of your new family?
How are you solving life challenges?
What is making you strong these days?
How are you learning?
What is your source of enjoyment?
How are you managing wealth, health and family good will etc etc

What in-laws are missing?

In-laws should care more for initial 5-6 years of son-daughter in-law happiness, freedom and their settling of new life.
While providing their experience, motivations and least expectations and least force to bend them to rules.
It spoils morale of any new person entering into family, office or new circle if you put hard rules to follow from next minute itself. Rather delay your ambitions, delay your critics, delay your hurried teaching/comparisons for some time
Give more time to son-daughter in-law to enjoy their life before they get introduced to kids. Make trips(pilgrimage) and provide room for them to settle in their life.
Keep questions open ended with out your dictations like 'How you both want to lead life?' 'What have you thought of your daily happiness etc'
Stop putting questions like 'How you want to celebrate 1st anniversary? How you want to spend on first kid, how you want to spend on gifts etc' these are short term pleasing that you only introduce and suffer later.

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