Sarvadarshi Chintana - Marriage Break ups

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Getting married is achievement, sustaining married life is another achievement. Many small things make a breakup in life. Both at elder side and younger side there is need of learning skills to live together, enjoy together. Breakup is not the solution for everything.But peer pressure is all cause of most issues.

While in western countries husband will be a cab driver and wife a VP in Software Industry nothing causes damage to their life together and they also found blessed with 3-4 kids a minimum.

So whats happening in India and specially in our culture unfortunately?

Peer pressure of jazzy living style ( most credit goes to Facebook owned products - Bad owner like college drop out can build such products for society ).
Comparative discussions and close look into each others life
Unhealthy conversations on gifts(thanks to introducing GIFT concept to world by unshaven conceptual person)
Parents discussions with their kids
Huge dependency on husband's wealth, zero tolerance to challenges, less maturity in defining self satisfaction meaning

So whats happening with parents discussions with kids?

As parents we start comparisons from school days itself
As matured mother - mother asking questions to daughter as 'what you got gift at your birthday by your husband? Which saree you took and why low cost?' Looking for well settled, America groom for daughter...
Talking to married daughter about her friends growing, settling in abroad, celebrating their family events grand etc.

What parents are not asking to their kids?

Not asking questions as

'how are you leading your life'?
Did you get understanding of your new family?
How are you solving life challenges?
What is making you strong these days?
How are you learning?
What is your source of enjoyment?
How are you managing wealth, health and family good will etc etc

What in-laws are missing?

In-laws should care more for initial 5-6 years of son-daughter in-law happiness, freedom and their settling of new life.
While providing their experience, motivations and least expectations and least force to bend them to rules.
It spoils morale of any new person entering into family, office or new circle if you put hard rules to follow from next minute itself. Rather delay your ambitions, delay your critics, delay your hurried teaching/comparisons for some time
Give more time to son-daughter in-law to enjoy their life before they get introduced to kids. Make trips(pilgrimage) and provide room for them to settle in their life.
Keep questions open ended with out your dictations like 'How you both want to lead life?' 'What have you thought of your daily happiness etc'
Stop putting questions like 'How you want to celebrate 1st anniversary? How you want to spend on first kid, how you want to spend on gifts etc' these are short term pleasing that you only introduce and suffer later.

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Sarvadarshi Madhwa Sadhakaru - Sri Hanumant Dasaru of Mannur

ಶ್ರೀಂ ಶ್ರೀ ಕಂ ಕಪಿಲಾಯ ನಮಃ ಪುಷ್ಯ ಬಹುಳ ದ್ವಿತೀಯಾ ನಾರಾಯಣಾರ್ಯ ಕರಾಬ್ಜೋತ್ಥ ಹರೇಃ ಪಾದವಲಂಬಿನಃ/ ಸ್ಮರಾಮಿ ಶ್ರೀ ಹನುಮದ್ದಾರ್ಯಂ ಕರಣತ್ರಯ ವಿಶುದ್ಧಯೇ// ಮಹಾನ್ ಸಾಧಕರಾದ *ಶ್ರೀನೀಲಂಗಿ ನಾರಾಯಣಾಚಾರ್ಯರ ಶಿಷ್ಯರೂ , ಕನಸಿನಲ್ಲಿ ಪಾಂಡುರಂಗನ ದರ್ಶನ ಪಡೆದವರು, ರಾಯರ ಪರಮಾನುಗ್ರಹಪಾತ್ರರು, ಅಪರೋಕ್ಷಜ್ಞಾನಿಗಳು, ದಾಸ ಸಾಹಿತ್ಯಕ್ಕೆ ಪರಮೋತ್ಕೃಷ್ಟ ಸೇವೆಯನ್ನು ಮಾಡಿದವರಾದ ಶ್ರೀಮಣೂರು ಹನುಮದಾಸರ ಆರಾಧನಾ ಮಹೋತ್ಸವವು ----- ಶ್ರೀ ಮಣೂರು ಹನುಮಂತದಾಸರು Mannur a place known for a great Madhwa Keshetra in south India. This place has Dhruva Kararchita Sri Chenna Keshav Deva(Sri Vidyanidhi Teerth of Sri Uttaradimath, found the lord in middle of river bheema as per message from lord in their dream, and installed it on Adhya family house). This place is a great madhwa saints place who were in lineage of Sri Uttaradimath. Saints like Sri Madhav Teerthi(Moola Brindavana Mannur), Sri Vedesh Teerth(Mannur), Sri Vidyanidhi Teerth(Moola Brindavana Yaragol - Taluka:Yaadgir ), Sri Raghuvarya Teerth(Moola Brindavana in Navabrindavana, Anegundi),

Sarvadasrshi Sadhakiyaru - Madhwa Women Achievers

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Divya Kshetra - Narshya (Narasimhageha)

Ref: Sri Sudha October 2021 edition Author(Kannada): Dr. B Gopalachar, Udupi Toulava kshetra - the one that is created by Parashuram Devaru has a great attachment to Madhwa Guru, Jagadguru, Param Guru Sri MAdhwacharyaru. In this pavitra area, there are lots of ancient temples where diety is been worshipped by Sri Madhwacharyaru. In all places, they showed Hari-Sarvottama and Vayu Jeevottama tatwas. All such information is been composed very well by Sri Panditacharyaru in Sumadhwavijaya. One among such divine places is NARSHA where Yoga Narasimha blessing devotees since long. History of NARSHA "Sajjananam modayantam" as rightly said - Sri Anand Teertha has provided lots of ananda to their bhaktas by providing the right and accurate information of Veda, Shastras. They demonstrated many mahimas to prove Hari Sarvottama and Vayu Jeevottama. Not only that they proved Jagat Satya, Pancha bedha, taratamya through many incidents. Once they visited NARSHA near Mangalore. In history

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